Right...?

Why are we so driven to be heard? (he wrote in the HUGE SCREAMING example of "wanting to be heard")
But, truly, why are we so desirous of "being right"? I bring this up because I see it slowly decay my relationships and the relationships of those around me. I watch people run their HeadDramas until they don't even know the reality of their partners. They are having an entirely different relationship with a skewed version of their lover, in their head. They live a dream. Why? Because they don't feel like they are understood, justified, acknowledged.
This becomes, in most cases, a battle for "I'm right".
Conversation deteriorates into a pair of monologues as neither party feels "heard" so they both stop listening. We start ranting to each other desperately trying to be understood, never pausing for a single moment in order to understand. We talk at each other.
Why must we be heard? Do our lives fail or diminish if we are not? Does it kill us? Truly?
And why does it justify our discontinuation of listening to and understanding those we are supposed to Love the most? Why does not "being right" make it O.K. to be cruel and cold and disrespectful to the most important people in our lives?
So what if they are not listening right now. Is it really worth the pain you cause to you both by being offended by it?
Do you think that maybe they feel like YOU are not hearing THEM?

I think back on the people that I've lost in my life and realize that it wasn't worth it. I don't really know if I was right or wrong anymore. I don't know if they were. I can't even think of why they are no longer a part of my life. I know, though, that I miss them. I know that I gained nothing by defending my position, regardless of what it was.
I know that our pride was saved at the expense of our hearts.
And I know that none of us "heard" each other at all.
Who was right and about what is lost in the pain of rememberance...
In the end we were all wrong.